Hey there, I’m Cindy Graham-Schmidt.
I’m a qualified life coach who supports mamas to overcome self-doubt, overwhelm and exhaustion. I help them to take incredible care of themselves and work on their mindset, so they can feel more at ease and find joy in this all-consuming phase of their lives.
I know from my own experience that being a mama is rewarding but also challenging and exhausting. You can often feel overwhelmed from all the contradicting information out there, and you are exhausted from sleep deprivation and a little human that wants to be held constantly.
You want to give your little one your best because that’s what they deserve, right? You want to do a good job, but you doubt yourself and second guess the decisions you make. I feel you, because I’ve been there too. Motherhood is tough and rewarding at the same time, isn’t it? Believe me when I say though: You can do it, mama. You really can!
It’s possible for you to not feel exhausted and overwhelmed every day, if you start to trust yourself and stop putting yourself last. If I can do it, you can do it too! I totally believe in you. Do you?
I empower mamas to do what feels right for them and their family no matter what society tells them they should do (urgh I hate that word!). I encourage them to reach out and ask for help when they struggle rather than trying to do everything alone (and then ending up with a complete breakdown). It’s not a sign of weakness if you can’t do it all alone and, in fact, you’re not even meant to. Ever heard of the saying “It takes a village to raise a child”?
I help caring and loving mamas to stop putting themselves last, and treat themselves with the same compassion and love with which they treat their little one.
How did I get here?
When my daughter was born, I didn’t take great care of myself and felt depleted more often than I’d like to admit. There was nursing on demand and hours of carrying my little one to sleep. Sleep, or more accurately, lack of sleep ruled my days (and nights). Days turned into weeks and everything seemed like a blur. I felt in a way like I was losing myself. Sure, it was very exciting to be a new mum and to watch my daughter grow and learn so quickly, but it was also very exhausting, because I didn’t look after myself at all. Many days I struggled to even squeeze in a 5-minute shower. Can you relate, mama?
I was so desperate, I even contacted a sleep consultant.
After one session with her though, I realised that this wasn’t right for my daughter and me. It was supposed to be a gentle approach to help with her sleep, but in hindsight I know that it really wasn’t. It just felt wrong and that’s why I decided to not further pursue it. Going through this process taught me to trust my mother instinct, BUT I was still exhausted.
Then, just a few months after my daughter turned one, someone very close to my heart was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Everything came down on me like a ton of bricks. All I could do for days was cry. To be honest, I don’t remember how I held it somewhat together for my little girl.
The diagnosis turned my life around. Not just because seeing someone you love go through chemotherapy is painfully hard, but also because it was a wake-up call for myself! It helped me realise where I had gone wrong…
I WAS DONE PUTTING MYSELF LAST! I needed to make myself a priority then and there!
After I had been contemplating it for months, I finally signed up to train to become a qualified life coach. It was something I did just for myself after 1.5 years of solely giving to my daughter day and night. To be honest, I was worried how I could fit everything in given that I was now sleep deprived, exhausted AND constantly worried about losing someone close to me, but I was committed to make it work because it meant so much to me. And so I did make it work.
That’s how I know that you can find the time for the things that YOU really want to do as well!
Studying to become a life coach didn’t just allow me to learn the ins and outs of coaching and many amazing self-development tools like mindset work. It also helped me to get to know myself A LOT better and to realise that I can only truly give my all to my family when I fill up my cup first.
I know now what I need to do to feel content and fulfilled.
I know now when I’m near breaking and what I can do to get myself out of feeling miserable and resentful.
I know now that having time to myself regularly is a necessity. (I’m an introvert and that’s how I recharge.)
I know now that I need to work on something meaningful alongside raising my little girl.
I know now that I need quality time with my family and friends who inspire me and cheer each other on.
I know now that I need to make decisions that work for ME – no matter what other people might think. (Bye bye, people pleasing & fear of judgement!)
It’s only when I do all of the above that I can be the mother and person I want to be!
If you’re reading this right now recognising that you too need to make yourself a priority and take better care of yourself in order for you to be the mother and person you really want to be, we should have a chat!
I will help you discover how you can take better care of yourself while being a gentle and loving mama, so that you don’t have to just push through the days only waiting that this too shall pass.
Apply for a free, no-obligation 1:1 Clarity Session to talk about how I can support you and to find out if we’d be a good match for coaching. It’s a great way for us to get to know each other better and there’s no risk for you.
You can find out more about MAMA-CARE my 3-month coaching program here.
10 random facts about me
I love baby carriers and still carry my nearly 3 year old daughter when she needs some extra cuddles.
I grew up in Germany; moved to Australia for 5+ years in my early twenties, and then back to Germany at 30 weeks pregnant.
I love books and consider myself a lifelong learner. However, motherhood has been my greatest teacher so far.
As a recovering perfectionist and overthinker, my mantra is “Progress over perfection”.
Before becoming a mum, I pride myself on being organised and efficient but, as this isn’t always achievable now, I have learned to surrender and let things go. (Most days anyway…)
I believe in the power of gratitude and using my intuition (alongside researching facts).
I love all things cosy. One of my favourite books is “The Little Book of Hygge” by Meik Wiking.
I’m currently based in Munich, Germany with my husband and daughter. However, I consider myself “at home” in both Germany and Australia. (Home is where the heart is.)
I have a sweet tooth - probably THE sweetest tooth if you’d ask my husband. (Cake is considered breakfast food, right?)
My superpower as a coach is my gentleness and empathy + my love for being organised and prepared. It allows me to focus on you completely and give you the attention you truly deserve.